Today is my 42nd birthday.
So here I am writing and watching some Soprano’s. I’ve had a good day so far.
This has been a pretty significant year for me. Some major life changes have been made. For those that don’t know, I’m in the process of a divorce. That’s all I will say on that for now except that I have learned who my real friends are in the process.
In the last few years I’ve had the opportunity to reconnect with friends that I have not seen in years that really were key in my life growing up that were every bit as close as family. How is it that when we have friends like that and we lose touch that we can find each other again? I’ll probably never figure that one out, but I’m glad we all found each other again.
I’ve met new friends that have become like family. One in particular has really had some good advice for me and I value the bond we’ve formed and I’m glad to consider this one family.
I’ve made better friendships with people at work that I’ve seen and spoken to for years. I’ve got some cool, twisted coworkers.
I’ve become involved with a woman that I met 26 years ago that captured my eye and my heart. She is an amazing lady and more beautiful now than ever and in more that just the physical sense. She has a great commitment to family and doesn’t take any shit from anyone. Some values that I have lost sight of over the years and don’t mind being reminded of. Especially by her.
Speaking of family, I’ve had a reforging of my relationship with my kids this year. I will say that a big part of my decision to end my marriage was that the future former Mrs. was controlling and alienating of my kids. When it comes down to it, she may have been my wife, but my kids are my kids and no one gets in the way of that. Things had finally come to a head last year that made me realize just how dysfunctional things had become. Things have really turned around with us. I actually have a better relationship with them now than I ever have. The three of us have become healthier people because of my decision to make this change.
A couple things that I have looming on the horizon is career and school.
I have been with the same company for 10 years now. I like what I do, but it’s become stale. In an abbreviated nutshell I am part of a team that handles ADA (American Disability Act) accessibility for a cruise line. I guess that I have always been kind of a caregiver in that sense. As a night manager for a local grocier I assisted residents of a local group home for the disabled do their weekly shopping. At the dealerships I’ve worked in, I assisted with getting new/used vans that disabled customers purchased to a local company that outfits them with lifts and hand controls.
I know that school for me needs to be something that continues in that direction. There are social services, health care services, community services to name a few. Medical seems to be the direction that my life may be headed though. At one point I did hold a state massage license. One direction from there could be PT services. I think it would be very cool to work with persons that have a disability and actually be able to make a difference in someones life. I recently thought about something else as well: EMT/EMS. Those folks make a real difference as well.
Of course I will be continuing to move forward with tattooing. I have recently gotten back to working on my art again and will be ordering more supplies to move ahead and get back to slinging ink on more regular basis.
So many things to consider and act on in the next year before 43 rolls around.
I look forward to the what the next year brings and conquering it.